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flareonfury) wrote2025-07-08 01:13 am
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Io sono che sono (iosonochesono) wrote2025-07-06 09:08 pm
iosonochesono) wrote2025-07-06 09:08 pmCast Still On
My wrist still had no mobility and was very sore outside the cast, add that to having a dog at home and the Orthopaedic surgeon recommended keeping a cast on two more weeks (which ended up being three due to a bank holiday).
I'm starting to try to take the dog walking and training classes more seriously and pick up more hours (and/or find a weekend job) as I really want to do a minimum 5% overpayment per month average on the mortgage (preferably 10%). I also want to rebuild savings after everything that happened and the house purchase. Unfortunately I've had zero luck finding a weekend job.
The bright side of this is that I didn't buy the house solo, and for now my partner in crime is chucking more in to match up my overpayments so far. So we do have savings (and insurance which includes emergency repairs). Just not as much as I like, especially because...
Patrick has had someone at work come to him and ask him to sign as guarantor. Oof. He's known the guy for four years and trusts him, but I am super wary and wanting to be prepared in case they flake out. Originally I was going to say no-can-do. I mean, we have not even been here a full six months. It's not like half the mortgage is paid and if the guy flakes out we can take a loan for a year's rent and only be a little in the hole, it's finding a way to pay rent a whole year for a house on top of our mortgage hole. And even if he trusts the guy, well, his trust-dar is not the best.
But in the end I told him ok.
First, the guy is here on a Visa and immigrants have a hard enough time here. I mean, there are literal progroms going on. Diversity is not a bad thing here.
Second, Patrick's worked with him four years.
Third, I feel like people helped us when we needed help - including Patrick's parents who signed as a guarantor for me because estate agents here wouldn't let anyone outside of Northern Ireland sign as a guarantor for me. Deborah housed us while we were looking for a house. So it's important to pay that forward, do unto others as you would want done unto you and all that.
He also said the guy is trying to get into cybersecurity and will hopefully be in a much higher paying job in a few months, but I take that with a grain of salt, same as I'm trying to become a nurse and project manager or Patrick's trying to become a regional manager. We all have aspirations, we don't all make them.
So as the other saying goes, hope for the best and expect the worst. I am trying to take earning more money much more seriously in case the worst should happen. Similarly I did tell Patrick that if he is signing as a guarantor for this guy he needs to be prepared that he might need to take up a second job up to a year to cover the lease until it completes.
And who knows, maybe paying it forward will bring karma back around to us. Maybe I'll get a job at the organisation just three minutes away by bicycle. If I did that £310/month I'd save would make it much easier for us to cover if the guy took off.
I'm starting to try to take the dog walking and training classes more seriously and pick up more hours (and/or find a weekend job) as I really want to do a minimum 5% overpayment per month average on the mortgage (preferably 10%). I also want to rebuild savings after everything that happened and the house purchase. Unfortunately I've had zero luck finding a weekend job.
The bright side of this is that I didn't buy the house solo, and for now my partner in crime is chucking more in to match up my overpayments so far. So we do have savings (and insurance which includes emergency repairs). Just not as much as I like, especially because...
Patrick has had someone at work come to him and ask him to sign as guarantor. Oof. He's known the guy for four years and trusts him, but I am super wary and wanting to be prepared in case they flake out. Originally I was going to say no-can-do. I mean, we have not even been here a full six months. It's not like half the mortgage is paid and if the guy flakes out we can take a loan for a year's rent and only be a little in the hole, it's finding a way to pay rent a whole year for a house on top of our mortgage hole. And even if he trusts the guy, well, his trust-dar is not the best.
But in the end I told him ok.
First, the guy is here on a Visa and immigrants have a hard enough time here. I mean, there are literal progroms going on. Diversity is not a bad thing here.
Second, Patrick's worked with him four years.
Third, I feel like people helped us when we needed help - including Patrick's parents who signed as a guarantor for me because estate agents here wouldn't let anyone outside of Northern Ireland sign as a guarantor for me. Deborah housed us while we were looking for a house. So it's important to pay that forward, do unto others as you would want done unto you and all that.
He also said the guy is trying to get into cybersecurity and will hopefully be in a much higher paying job in a few months, but I take that with a grain of salt, same as I'm trying to become a nurse and project manager or Patrick's trying to become a regional manager. We all have aspirations, we don't all make them.
So as the other saying goes, hope for the best and expect the worst. I am trying to take earning more money much more seriously in case the worst should happen. Similarly I did tell Patrick that if he is signing as a guarantor for this guy he needs to be prepared that he might need to take up a second job up to a year to cover the lease until it completes.
And who knows, maybe paying it forward will bring karma back around to us. Maybe I'll get a job at the organisation just three minutes away by bicycle. If I did that £310/month I'd save would make it much easier for us to cover if the guy took off.
Io sono che sono (iosonochesono) wrote2025-06-30 09:22 am
iosonochesono) wrote2025-06-30 09:22 amCast to Come Off Today
Hopefully. They haven't looked at it since I went into A&E. I feel like a lot of this is ageism and fatphobia, so I'm trying to see if I can budget Mounjaro (I was reading studies about enchondroma and ACT and it's amazing how much they dismiss functionality if they think you're inactive. Literally, 'Ah she's overweight and middle-aged, no big deal.')
You hear it, you know it's true, but it's something else to actually read it in research. Like functionality doesn't affect long-term independence or mobility? Fuck's sake.
The thing is, I am physically active. I just eat too much. So I'm thinking if I work on body-weight training, mobility and Calisthenics - the stuff I can do for free - and give Mounjaro a shot, maybe I can address the weight part, and eventually I'll add the Apple Watch (which has a fall alarm anyway and given my luck I was already planning on one.) So if I get the suspicion someone is doing that to me I can advocate for myself.
But it is true I mostly do cardio, I don't do enough strength or mobility training specifically, so I'm going to genuinely work on that when the cast is off (laying off that wrist specifically during rehab).
I've mostly given up on applying for jobs and decided I will focus on trying to get into the HE and BSN programme at QUB, but I have made an exception for one organisation. It's literally right around the corner from where I live. 3 minutes by bike.
If I worked there, I'd actually possibly not need anything else. I could walk Jake up to 8.30 and still get to work on time. I wouldn't need a regular dog walker because I could come home during lunch, wouldn't need a bus pass. I'd still be home before 5.30.
That's an automatic savings of £310/month, and I could make lunch at home and there are no restaurants so I'd probably save even more on takeaways. I wouldn't need a car, so that would actually be my mostly-permanent incoming/outgoing and most of my takeaway budget could be shifted to the taxi budget for dog sports (still cheaper than owning a car full-time if I'm only using it for dog sports and beach trips.)
Basically, if I can't write a novel or win the lottery, living three minutes from work is a close second. And the salary maxes out above the local average. So I'm not trying to apply for jobs unless they come up at that place.
You hear it, you know it's true, but it's something else to actually read it in research. Like functionality doesn't affect long-term independence or mobility? Fuck's sake.
The thing is, I am physically active. I just eat too much. So I'm thinking if I work on body-weight training, mobility and Calisthenics - the stuff I can do for free - and give Mounjaro a shot, maybe I can address the weight part, and eventually I'll add the Apple Watch (which has a fall alarm anyway and given my luck I was already planning on one.) So if I get the suspicion someone is doing that to me I can advocate for myself.
But it is true I mostly do cardio, I don't do enough strength or mobility training specifically, so I'm going to genuinely work on that when the cast is off (laying off that wrist specifically during rehab).
I've mostly given up on applying for jobs and decided I will focus on trying to get into the HE and BSN programme at QUB, but I have made an exception for one organisation. It's literally right around the corner from where I live. 3 minutes by bike.
If I worked there, I'd actually possibly not need anything else. I could walk Jake up to 8.30 and still get to work on time. I wouldn't need a regular dog walker because I could come home during lunch, wouldn't need a bus pass. I'd still be home before 5.30.
That's an automatic savings of £310/month, and I could make lunch at home and there are no restaurants so I'd probably save even more on takeaways. I wouldn't need a car, so that would actually be my mostly-permanent incoming/outgoing and most of my takeaway budget could be shifted to the taxi budget for dog sports (still cheaper than owning a car full-time if I'm only using it for dog sports and beach trips.)
Basically, if I can't write a novel or win the lottery, living three minutes from work is a close second. And the salary maxes out above the local average. So I'm not trying to apply for jobs unless they come up at that place.
Stephanie (flareonfury) wrote2025-06-29 02:28 pm
flareonfury) wrote2025-06-29 02:28 pmEntry tags:
Some new communities...
Ok so I wake up this morning with like an inbox of 18 posts for dreamwidth, and I'm astonished. I haven't had that experience in a long time. So I posted about ![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
uc_xmen 's prompts request at fandom_on_dw and fandomcalendar and it seemed to have worked! Yay! Now hopefully more people will join in once the prompting is over as well. So if you have any X-Men unconventional pairings you've wanted to see for awhile, add prompts!
In other news, I joinedseasons_of_fandom under the Winter Court because why not? I used to love the land communities at LJ so I figured I'd try it. Plus if it gets me active again with fandom, maybe it'll distract from RL shit? Plus I miss it.
Also I'm signing up for100ships (table) and 100fandoms (table) - because again, why not? Also I need something to inspire me to write again. I miss writing. It might take me 100 years, but I figured I could combine them with claims that I've had for awhile. I do still need to move my fanfiction to my community though from LJ, plus add stuff that's been on AO3 only.
Createdtvfanfiction again here since there was only a bookfanfiction and moviefanfiction. I'm going to probably go through my other communities at LJ and add them here as well. Also imported posts from tv_fanfiction and alicehatter from LJ. So I think I officially know how to do that which is good.
OOh and I createddarcyland !! (Not a land community) - just darcylewis was being used and I completely forgot that I used chloe_otp as the formula for all the ships, but technically the Darcy Lewis fandom is called Darcyland.
Anyway I'm sure there are more to come!
uc_xmen 's prompts request at fandom_on_dw and fandomcalendar and it seemed to have worked! Yay! Now hopefully more people will join in once the prompting is over as well. So if you have any X-Men unconventional pairings you've wanted to see for awhile, add prompts!In other news, I joined
seasons_of_fandom under the Winter Court because why not? I used to love the land communities at LJ so I figured I'd try it. Plus if it gets me active again with fandom, maybe it'll distract from RL shit? Plus I miss it. Also I'm signing up for
100ships (table) and 100fandoms (table) - because again, why not? Also I need something to inspire me to write again. I miss writing. It might take me 100 years, but I figured I could combine them with claims that I've had for awhile. I do still need to move my fanfiction to my community though from LJ, plus add stuff that's been on AO3 only.Created
tvfanfiction again here since there was only a bookfanfiction and moviefanfiction. I'm going to probably go through my other communities at LJ and add them here as well. Also imported posts from tv_fanfiction and alicehatter from LJ. So I think I officially know how to do that which is good.OOh and I created
darcyland !! (Not a land community) - just darcylewis was being used and I completely forgot that I used chloe_otp as the formula for all the ships, but technically the Darcy Lewis fandom is called Darcyland.Anyway I'm sure there are more to come!
Io sono che sono (iosonochesono) wrote2025-06-25 07:38 pm
iosonochesono) wrote2025-06-25 07:38 pmGetting Ready for School
I've set up Maths tutoring with a PhD in engineering and physics and found an MD that I am going to try for the biology subjects. I may try to find a chemistry PhD for the chemistry courses but I figure that's enough for before my arm is even out of the cast. I don't even know I'll get into the programme yet but if not I'll sign up for one online - I just want this one specifically because it's awarded by QUB and I'd like to get into QUB.
I was a bit worried about starting tutoring before school starts even though I need the review - but I'm finding textbooks based off the Lecturers in The Great Courses Plus and McGraw Hill. Plus, courses offered for free by Yale. I suspect I can use those to get revised/educated on a lot of these topics before the courses start and set me up for success.
Hopefully. The reality is, as many financial experts say, you can't save your way out of poverty. I paid off my card. But after I put in my share of the mortgage and money we're saving toward fencing and GFCH, paid Lauren to walk Jake next month, insurance, etc. I barely have anything left over. If I'm honest with myself, I need to be making at least 1.5x what I'm making now, especially if I want to hire tutors. If I'd had a cushion, I'd not have built card debt to begin with.
If Patrick were working evenings and could walk/let Jake out mid-day I could cut Lauren (who I am pretty confident wants to be cut anyway) and that would give me a £240 bigger cushion monthly.
The doctor was right to recommend against working in the cast. It took me two days to write this post lol.
I was a bit worried about starting tutoring before school starts even though I need the review - but I'm finding textbooks based off the Lecturers in The Great Courses Plus and McGraw Hill. Plus, courses offered for free by Yale. I suspect I can use those to get revised/educated on a lot of these topics before the courses start and set me up for success.
Hopefully. The reality is, as many financial experts say, you can't save your way out of poverty. I paid off my card. But after I put in my share of the mortgage and money we're saving toward fencing and GFCH, paid Lauren to walk Jake next month, insurance, etc. I barely have anything left over. If I'm honest with myself, I need to be making at least 1.5x what I'm making now, especially if I want to hire tutors. If I'd had a cushion, I'd not have built card debt to begin with.
If Patrick were working evenings and could walk/let Jake out mid-day I could cut Lauren (who I am pretty confident wants to be cut anyway) and that would give me a £240 bigger cushion monthly.
The doctor was right to recommend against working in the cast. It took me two days to write this post lol.